Equal Child Custody Time Sharing Also Helps Parents

Equal Child Custody Time Sharing Reduces Hostility Between Divorcing Parents
 
Equal time sharing benefits parents as well as children. Under the current “clean slate” of child custody time sharing, litigating parents will often take extreme positions at the outset of the mediation negotiations. This approach, while unhealthy in the long run, makes some sense in the moment. Under the "clean slate" approach parents are as likely (or more) to receive 75% time sharing because they are incentivized to aim for the higher amount, and settle for less only when he or she loses leverage or litigation funds.

This inevitable negotiating tactic translates into unproven and vitriolic character attacks on the other parent in the initial petition, all designed to convey that parent's poor parenting skills. That other parent receives this public document impugning his character, and naturally wants to “fight fire with fire” and strike back with an equally damning counter-petition. Thus, the initial pleadings add even more hostility to the already tense situation.

A rebuttable presumption of 50-50 sharing largely prevents this type of exchange of hostilities. 

“Clean-slate” Child Custody Time Sharing Promotes Additional Divorce Litigation

The clean-slate paradigm also encourages family law litigants to file pre-mediation motions and petitions for injunctions. Motions for exclusive use of the home and petitions for injunctions provide the victorious parent with de-facto increased or exclusive time with the children.

Consequently, the more time that losing parents have to spend away from their children, the less likely that they will be able to secure equal sharing at a future family court trial. The other parent can now resort to countless delay tactics to postpone a trial for several months or more. When the family law judge finally does conduct the trial, the losing parent will have to overcome the vague, but often-cited need to “keep things consistent” for the children, which means allowing the aggressive parent to maintain majority of their custody. Clean-slate time sharing also rewards contentious, costly and emotionally scarring litigation.

Equal Time Sharing Narrows Conflicts, Reduces Attorney Fees and Promotes Cooperation

Now, imagine if parents knew from the beginning that most custody determinations result in the granting of equal time sharing. Excluding the obvious but limited exceptions involving parental unfitness, abandonment and abuse, parents will put down their swords, accept equal time sharing as a given, and focus only on hammering out the fine details of the parenting plan. The narrowing of potential conflict reduces acrimony between the parents, reduces their attorney’s fees, and promotes cooperation. 

Equal Time Sharing Also Helps Both Parents After The Divorce

Furthermore, the implementation of equal time sharing will allow each parent to play a substantial role in their child’s life after the divorce without feeling overwhelmed. Father and mother can lead balanced and emotionally fulfilling lives. There also would be less incentive to file petitions for modifications to “get even” for the perceived child custody time sharing injustice suffered at the trial. 

Overall, parents would benefit as much as their children from a rebuttable resumption of equal time sharing.   

How We Can Help

If you have any questions about equal time sharing, or any other family law topic, I encourage you to call AAA Family Law at (407) 260-6001, and schedule a consultation with me.

By Orlando Family Law Attorney Eduardo J. Mejias, Practicing Family Law Only Since 2011